Fall In Love
Happy Fall! I already started decorating and planning our fun trips in cozy sweaters! This is my favorite time of year by far. If your household is anything like mine, it has been a wild summer and a crazy start to the school year. Getting in those last-minute getaways and fun day trips, house projects, school shopping, and the list goes on and on, right?!
The Melville household has been crazy as well. All summer my husband has only been home on the weekends because he has been doing some car projects in Queens and working lots of overtime. I've been busy shuffling the kids here and there and getting them ready for preschool. This past weekend, I saw him for 5 mins on Friday before I headed out to my mom-cation.
On my ride to meet my friend at our Airbnb, I realized I haven't had a real conversation with my husband in weeks! LOL. We are like 2 ships passing in the night, weekends have been wild too! I was reminded that man….connection has to be intentional, especially during this season of our lives. How fast time can quickly pass and we don't even realize we haven't prioritized our relationship.
Every marriage—no matter how strong- has the potential to drift apart and finds itself, at some point: at a crossroads. And it’s there, at the crossroads, that we have a choice. If we stay on the same path, we’ll end up not recognizing one another in 10 years and arguing over who gets custody.
We have to make choices. It means intentionally doing small sustainable daily gestures before we reach the crossroads.
So, here are the things I committed to doing starting today to make sure my connection with my husband doesn't drift. I hope they help you too!
Engage in meaningful conversations. Sure you have to talk about the kids, the chores, the house, etc. but pause and ask one another about your day. What was hard? What was rewarding? What are they most looking forward to? Don't forget you are both more than mom and dad!
Express Gratitude. Tell your spouse how much you appreciate them. For me, it's the sacrifice of time with his family to work overtime to provide for us. He lets me know I am a good mom and thanks for me picking up the load at home. It's simple. Compromise and appreciation.
Make Quality Time a priority. When you do get time together, make sure you are doing something to connect and bring your relationship forward. Cuddle, go on a date, make eye contact, and put away electronics.
