Choose Wisely
One of the toughest things about any party (wedding, mitzvah, etc.) is managing the guest list. Who you invite is just as important as what the room looks like, what you serve and all the other things you will painstakingly worry about. In fact, your guest list might be MORE important. I am always tell clients” I can make any party beautiful, but if you invite boring people, it will be a boring party!” I am kind of kidding, but, well, maybe not.
Things to consider before you just invite away.
Are they fun? You all know what I mean…do they always show up ready for a good time and embrace the theme and surroundings?
Do they know a decent amount of other guests? It is tough to have a great time when you don’t know anyone. Maybe this is not the best party to invite that friend from college that doesn’t know any of your current friends.
Are they worth a $300 meal? Overall for your wedding or larger affair, you will likely spend over $300 per person on décor, food, drinks, music, etc. So would you invite this guest to a $300+ meal? If the answer is “no way” then why are you inviting them?
Do they love you? Are they happy for whatever you are celebrating? Will you want to see them and get down on the dance floor with them?
I know that there are pressures from parents, friends, work colleagues and the like, but resist the urge to invite someone because you “should.” Invite them because you want them there, will remember that they were there, and they will contribute to the party. When you host a party it is the one time you can do what YOU want and you want the party to be effortless once it starts which means that everyone chosen to be there means something to you. Who will make the cut?